Stand by Me

Stand by Me ★★★★★


Is there a time more precarious than early adolescence? On the cusp between childhood and adulthood, the weight of the world posed, ready to fall on your shoulders. You’re young enough to laugh about people throwing up and jokes about your friends’ moms but you’re old enough to realize that the world is perceiving you constantly, whether it be based on your actions or the actions of your family. 

Expectations are scarier than the possibility of dead bodies. The thrill of seeing what you’re not meant to is a distraction from the abuse at home, the death of loved ones, the frustrations of not being seen. 

The film ends with Gordie marveling at the revelation that he never had friends like the ones he did that summer, that no one really does. But how could he? Or we? When so much of living is boxed into harsh, cruel societal standards about how we shouldn’t be vulnerable, that being a “pussy” (whatever the hell that means) is the worst thing possible. What a devastating realizations, that perhaps in becoming the people the world wants us to become, we’ve lost the ability to bond the way we did when we were young and drunk on the possibilities of the future. 

An essential coming of age film that has been on my list for far too long. A classic, an instant favorite, and a watch I will definitely appreciate and turn to again in the future.

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