Old Joy ★★★½

Film Club #50:

A surprisingly optimistic view on existentialist thoughts during life's many transitions.

I think this was just the right time for me to see this movie as I am in the process of a big transition myself. Granted, I'm not having a child in the near future but I am at a bit of a crossroads. My life got a little uprooted early because of Covid-19 but really it ended up speeding up the inevitable conflict of making some crucial social choices.

I've had some unforgettable memories and made some very meaningful friendships, many of which I very much intend to keep long after college. The question that plagues my mind is which will stay and which will inevitably fade away. I really care about all these people but I know that there are some that will inevitably drift away whether it be my doing or theirs. There have been so many times in my life where I made these great memories with specific people but through time we just go our separate ways which really sucks because I made genuine connections with these people and really enjoyed my time with them but this fracturing still happens. The fear of being left behind is a real one and sometimes it hurts looking back at people I lost contact with.

I don't know where these next few months are going to take me and that's a little terrifying. The most important thing I can do is make sure I don't let myself be left behind. Make an effort and reach out, don't be afraid to reach out to these people because more often than not they are interested but they don't have the drive to do it themselves. If that friendship is important to you then you have to be the one to make the offer. Even if they don't get the same experience out of it as you the effort might mean a lot and spark more quality time in the future; or it won't, but you won't know until you try.

There's also an underlying message of being kind that is really important. Even if you aren't enjoying something as much as others if there is an effort being made on one person's part it's still important to try and enjoy it with them. Being considerate also leads to less opportunities of guilt. When has someone every felt guitly about doing something for somebody? The world now more than every needs more kindness and more selflessness the question is whether or not you're willing to give it. You never know what can come from brightening even one person's day.

It's Chaos.

Be Kind.

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