Call Me by Your Name

Call Me by Your Name ★★★½

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"Is it better to speak or die?"
I am obsessed with this film's focus on the language of restraint. The way these two men communicate without words is fascinating and makes the point about shame and sexuality in the least overwrought way a film has ever done. The final credits of the film even are a perfect example; Elio falls apart silently and so controlled while life moves around him. The 'coming out' scene in the public square is so understated that he never says the words out loud.
"You know what things."
"Why are you telling me this?"
"Because I thought you should know."
Everything in this exchange is the two men begging not to use language to incriminate.
The two men seem to worship restraint because they are being forced to; I think about the piano scene where Oliver asks Elio to play the simplest version of a song, the sex scene where self control is the impetus for excitement. I feel in so many mainstream queer films the script comes out and says "Damn, these characters really can't be themselves...that sucks." This film is so much about that message, it bypasses the lecture and just does the feeling justice. To me it's the film's best quality. There are many things that did not work for me as well but it is beautiful and left me thinking and feeling.

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