Lady Bird

Lady Bird ★★★★★

I was in awe of this film the first time I watched it, when it came out, back in 2017, and I've been in awe of it every time I have watched it after that. Coming-of-age is my favorite genre, but honestly, Lady Bird made me realize yet again, that I'm still coming of age in a way in my late 20s, which seems (and also feels) like a sad realization, but maybe the whole thing ain't that bad. Maybe that's why this movie is so powerful, in my opinion at least. It's able to evoke a sense of nostalgia, of course, because 17 and 18 weren't much different either but it's relatable even for others, especially if you're anything like me - still trying to figure out who I am, what I want to do, and steering an intense and tumultuous relationship with my mother. What I love about this movie is that it's very grounded. It's a slice of life that flashes before your eyes and makes you forget you're watching fiction and instead just makes you feel like you've become a part of the life of an angsty confused teenager that you not only just enjoy watching, but can also easily identify with. It's also easy to identify with the relationship Lady Bird shares with her mother, because the more intense a relationship is, the more likely it is to be fucked up, and if the personalities of a mother and daughter are stark different, and aggressive, clashes can obviously be expected. But I love how Lady Bird knows and repeatedly says that she knows her mother loves her. Sometimes I think, no, at the end of the day it doesn't matter, because the hurt that comes from your own mother isn't one you can get over easily, but that's really not the case. It does matter at the end of the day that these women love us. Mothers have a big heart, whether they like to show it off or not, and a person can be furious at their mother, even hate them at times, but the truth is, they're the marrow of our existence. (I can't speak for those who have been abandoned by their mothers because I know there are plenty of people like that so this review is strictly Lady Bird based and things that draw a parallel in my life with the film). There are so many times I want to scream at my mother, "leave me alone", (yes, even now, being so old when we don't even really live together), but I know and she knows that even the times when I do say it, I might mean it, but I don't want it. And that's what girlboss Greta Gerwig has captured ever so effervescently in this film. And Ronan and Metcalf bring life to their characters by appearing to be just two regular struggling people who when together on screen, create this unbelievable tension that you can feel in your bones. The other relationships Lady Bird has along the way all leave her confused and sometimes drained because she's a teenager, and her naïveté is something I'm sure we've all experienced in our lives, in ourselves. All the events of her senior year (and all the people), which some say is the most important time in our lives, become experiences for her she might be able to leave behind, but will never able to forget. Being older than what I was is not easy, but I don't remember 17 and 18 being an easy age either. Maybe I did come of age back then, maybe I'm still coming of age in some ways, so I think it's best if I just stop believing in the concept of age and just go with the flow or against it; you know, do whatever I please. If I really liked Greta before Lady Bird, it's safe to say I really love Greta after Lady Bird. She has this beautiful feminine angst that she knows how to extract from her characters and I have always believed that an artist puts a lot of themselves in what they create and from what she has created so far, I'm sure Greta is a fucking fantastic human being. You know the kind who accept their flaws and even celebrate them? And in the process, they create ordinary yet extraordinary things if they are as talented as Greta Gerwig, of course.

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