Call Me by Your Name

Call Me by Your Name ★★★★★

if you talk to me for one second, you’ll know that being queer and jewish is a big part of who i am, and if you talk to me for ten minutes, you’ll probably find out that being queer and jewish is one of my biggest inner conflicts. 

for so long, i’ve been thinking about writing films about that conflict. how rabbi after rabbi have told me they won’t conduct a jewish wedding ceremony for me and future my wife. how the torah doesn’t necessarily say anything against it, but nothing for it either. how i want to feel belonging in my orthodox synagogue and not feel like i’m doing something — being someone — wrong in the name of our God. overcoming fear, understanding pride. that’s my story. 

but this isn’t that. call me by your name isn’t that. 

this is not so much the story about how the two identities, jewish and queer, intertwine and conflict, but instead, it shows how the two live with one another, without problem, without question, and how the two adds to one another, a part of the bigger picture. beautiful, proud parts of the bigger picture.  

and for that, i’m grateful for this film. 

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for my keepsake/memory: 
oliver is proud to be jewish. he wears the magen david. when elio notices that and is drawn to put his on too — i love this. there is so much in that imagery. so much meaning. i’m so happy to have seen that on film. 

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xx. i know there’s so much more to this film than judaism, it’s especially about being young and the difficulties of finding yourself through your own sexuality and connecting with someone, your first someone, in a way that’ll never compare to anyone else. there’s a lot to unpack with this film, but i’m so drawn to the jewish themes and can talk about it forever

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